Not Making Decisions Is Worse Than Making Mistakes

If we don’t make decisions there will be people to make them for us and we will lose control of our own life. We must be the rudder of our happiness.

We spend the day making decisions. We choose what we’re going to wear, we decide what we’re going to have for breakfast. Or what brand of cosmetics we are going to buy and what movie we are going to see in the cinema.

All of these little daily actions define a part of our personality.

However, what really characterizes who we are are these big decisions. Those that allow us to take one path or another.

You should know that who does not decide for himself leaves his destiny in the hands of others. Or the chance where we completely lose control of our life.

It is obvious that with any decision there is a component of fear and uncertainty. But it will always be better to make mistakes that you learn from than to do nothing and wait.

Today, in this article, we invite you to think about this aspect in order to learn the basic strategies of an efficient and safe decision-making.

The decisions that allow us to live with more harmony

Today, more than aspire to this ideal happiness through which we can achieve all our dreams, what we want most is to be in harmony.

• To be in harmony means to act in accordance with our values ​​by finding the respect of others.
• It is also having personal relationships based on reciprocity and recognition.
• Harmony is also about calming one’s interior, without fear, insecurities or even anxieties.

Let us now see what are the rules that we must follow to achieve this personal courage through which we will be able to make decisions.

Learn to discern

To discern in this way is a psychological ability that we all have and that we should learn to put into practice.

• We often let ourselves be carried away by routine, by this daily life where we fall into psychological monotony and where we then stop acting.
• This carelessness makes our thoughts a little more rigid, to the point of considering any alteration or change as a danger.
  Going beyond our comfort zone is then something that produces fear and insecurity.
  
• When we are in these situations, then the best is to learn to discern.
• This term means “to realize something, to discover a truth”.  This is precisely what we must do: discover this unsatisfactory reality in which we are.
• Before making a good decision, however, it is advisable to know how to discern at what point in our life we ​​find ourselves and for that, we must ask ourselves a few questions that will reveal a reality to us.
• Here are some sample questions:
  • Do I feel like I am in control of my decisions? 
  • When I wake up in the morning, do I feel like I’m going to do what I really want?
  • Is what I want for the future what I have today?
  • Are the people around me worried about my happiness?
    

To make decisions, we have to know where we want to go

When we fully realize that we need a change, we need to know where we are headed and what we want to achieve.

• Change for the sake of change, without a clear goal, does not make sense.
• We must be responsible for each of our actions and for that, we must set goals.
• Before making a big decision, it is best to start making “small decisions” that reflect simple goals that we can achieve little by little.
• Here is an example: set as a goal that from today we are going to be more assertive and say “no” when we really feel it, and “yes” when we really want to.

Small changes bring with them an improvement in self-esteem.

In this way, we accumulate strength and courage to set in motion bigger decisions: looking for another job, changing our place of life …

We must not be afraid of mistakes

We must not be afraid of mistakes, but of a life not lived. This is why it is necessary to take into account the following aspects:

• Sometimes we look for the culprits in the misfortune that suffocates us when in reality it is we who are prolonging these situations which, in themselves, should already have been resolved.
• We are the creators of what happens in our mind. If we believe that a mistake is a failure to be lamented about, we will never allow ourselves to move forward.
• A mistake is an opportunity to learn, and which is limited to remaining without moving for the simple fear of making a mistake again, will put up walls in front of his happiness.

We need to be able to follow our natural intuition. We all have this internal compass that tells us when something needs to end or when we need to start something over.

Dare to live the life your heart whispers in your ear, rationalize your fears, strengthen your self-esteem and learn from every stone you find in your path.

Because to decide is to live.