In Your Worst Times, You Will Know Who Deserves To Be There During The Best
Those people who help us not to fall lower during difficult times, those who give us their time and tenderness without asking for anything in return are also those who must share our moments of joy when we reach our goals.
Time is the best gift we can give to the people we love. Hence the importance of knowing to whom and in what way we give our time under the sign of love, friendship, complicity, support and fun.
We must also thank the people who give us their time, especially if they do it with pleasure and without asking for anything in return, simply because they know we need it. This recognition is even stronger when people we love share with us times we want them to be there.
In life, it is wonderful to have people who are there when we need them, to be listened to and supported, to receive tenderness. Let’s dig deeper.
Our loved ones above all
These people who support us allow us to surpass ourselves by the simple fact that they do not want us to be far away, even when we are not the best of companies when, for example, we carry a very contagious virus within us, the discouragement.
The despair is a pathogen that is very difficult to drive, when we pierce bone.
Moreover, they are the only people who can be aware of how much our goals have cost us.
Difficult times are therefore the hand of this realistic draftsman who transcribes how important the people we appreciate are.
In difficult times, support pushes forward
The degree of automation that exists in our lives is very great. If we counted the number of tasks we do without thinking throughout the day, we would be quiet! We get up, we shower, we dry ourselves, we get dressed, we have breakfast. We can thus go through the whole day without realizing it.
However, if the bad times are highlighted, it is because this automaticity disconnects. We are no longer so skillful or capable, or at least that’s what we think. What seems easy to us in normal times becomes a very complicated wall to climb when sadness or discouragement invades us.
Faced with this continuous exercise of effort, having people around you who are willing to lend us strength not only comforts but also makes these tasks easier.
It’s not easy to support someone through a bad time
Sadness does not make people pleasant or attractive. Maybe it inspires them to write or paint pictures, but it makes them more introverted and giddy. Their gaze is more turned inward. They only seem to connect with us when they share their interests.
They become demanding, they think the world owes them a lot. It is very easy, in the grip of frustration, to let off steam on others for lack of being able to hold fate to account.
Moreover, their lack of attention translates into a lack of attention to the needs and problems of others. It could also be that, although it goes unnoticed, the bitterness they feel at the time is preventing them from showing empathy.
To celebrate the good times is to thank
While offering and sharing time is a gift in itself, celebrating good times is also a way of giving thanks. A symbol of gratitude to the people who, in the shadows, were present. These people who allowed us to bounce back during times when the temptation to give up was so great.
However, celebrating the good times is not necessarily well regarded socially. It’s as if sharing our joy for success makes us come across as a self-centered person who likes to brag about their successes.
The celebration is associated with the lack of prudence and seriousness, the muddle of instincts and emotions.
But when we suppress this happiness, we are punishing ourselves, when we have achieved an exceptional goal.
Celebrations are necessary because life and true friends are still as worthy and courageous as before.
